Stop cutting parents out…

Stop cutting parents out…



In this 6 minute video Alan Charter who runs the Children Matter network argues from Deuteronomy why it is so important for the family to take seriously its responsibility to be the primary place for the nurturing of Christian faith. Now there are of course exceptions to the rule – my situation was that my family were not Christians and my sunday school volunteers and local schools workers were a vital and irreplaceable part of my spiritual formation. But the normative model for the spiritual development of children are parents, grandparents, aunties and uncles taking responsibility to help raise faith in the upcoming generation.

I’d love to know what you think are the roadblocks for parents in particular in being proactive in the discipleship of their children. I am asking for a couple of reasons – I am a parents and I need all the help I can get in discipling my children. I am part of a church leadership team that is wrestling with this at the moment. But I am also an author trying to write into this space. So three questions for you:

1. What are the challenges for parents to actually disciple their children

2. What can the church do to work with (not around parents)

3. What are the best resources you have seen to help

Thanks for your help friends


This is the last of the videos from the Evangelical Alliance Council meeting “It takes a whole church to raise a child.”



2 thoughts on “Stop cutting parents out…

  1. Fiona says:

    I wasn’t brought up in a Christian home but my husband was and we now have three children. We’re facing the same question having watched most of the young people we know who have grown up in the church come to a crisis of faith and then walk away. I am generalising but I think we have forgotten how to be Kingdom families rather than families that go to church. We try to make sure that we talk about Jesus in our house as the real person he is, that God just isn’t the moral policeman looking over our shoulder but that my husband and I also talk about our relationship with Him. I think the danger is as parents we either dismiss what the children learn on Sundays as just Sunday school and forget that our children will learn more about our faith by what we do and say to one another than what they hear on a Sunday. There is tons more to say but I think sometimes we forget that they won’t just get it by osmosis, Jesus needs to be as much a part of our external conversations and experiences as a family as he is part of the internal for us as individuals.

  2. Pat Joy says:

    As Parents we’re damned if we do, we’re damned if we don’t. When I stayed with my daughter, I was told of by the Social Worker because I raised my voice (not my hand) after telling her to do something three times.

    We are then told off because we don’t discipline them and the country is going to the dogs.

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