National consultation on Fostering, Adoption & the Church

National consultation on Fostering, Adoption & the Church

I am delighted to tell you about a nationwide initiative that I am working on with Care for the Family and Evangelical Alliance.

There is a pressing need in the UK for more foster and adoptive parents. There is a crisis in recruitment and retainment of foster and adoptive placements. The church is uniquely placed to offer its help to meet both of these needs. As a large social network with involvement with large numbers of families the church is fertile soil for recruitment. Once carers have been through the full process of assessment, the church provides an excellent community of support wrapping around families to help them continue on in their placements.

This initiative aims to change the culture in local churches across the UK to make adoption and fostering a significant part of the life of the majority of churches. We aim to develop an intentionality about the recruitment and support of foster and adoptive families in local churches.

We need your help.

This is such a big idea that there is no way this can happen without you. We are starting a consultation process so we want to hear from anyone interested in fostering and adoption –

1 Current and prospective foster carers – to understand your hopes, fears and experiences

2 Church and denominational leaders perspective – to understand how we can begin to change the culture in churches around fostering and adoption

3 Social work professionals – to get a grip on best practice

Your engagement will shape this project at every level. All of our plans are open so getting involved now at this early stage will really help us. There will be 6 regional consultations in Birmingham, Manchester, Cardiff, Belfast, London and Glasgow – please check on the link below for more details.

Its high time that the church became known again for being good news to our culture and what better way than to offer hospitality, hope and help to some of the most vulnerable children and their families.

Please get in touch by registering your interest at our website here.


15 thoughts on “National consultation on Fostering, Adoption & the Church

  1. Andrew McCracken says:

    Hey Krish – this sounds great. If there’s anything I can do to help, let me know. Encouraging churches to find people to foster/adopt is massively important; I’m also interested in how we, the church, become a force for change in the system – to provide faster decision making for kids, and better support for and communication with carers.

    1. krishkandiah says:

      thanks andrew – love to have you on board – drop me an email and lets talk about what you can do- blessings mate

  2. Andrew McCracken says:

    Hey Krish – this sounds great. If there’s anything I can do to help, let me know. Encouraging churches to find people to foster/adopt is massively important; I’m also interested in how we, the church, become a force for change in the system – to provide faster decision making for kids, and better support for and communication with carers.

  3. Pat Joy says:

    I’ve forwarded this on to the pastors I know in England (about six churches).

    Over here in Ukraine we are trying to encourage each church in the country to get at least one family to foster or adopt. If this happened there wouldn’t be any social orphans in the country.

    If there is anything I can do from this distance, please let me know

    1. krishkandiah says:

      Brilliant pat, love to talk more about your plans in Ukraine, I’m going to an international consult on this will keep you informed through the blog. Blessings !

      1. Pat Joy says:

        I know the two countries work completely differently, but if there is anything I can do to help, or any information, please feel free to ask. By the way, we do have similar to CRB checks over here.

  4. Lee Pinner says:

    We have just been through the process, it has been challenging and hard work at times, our biggest obstacle has been church attendance and our insistence that we would not compromise on this, we’d be interested in being involved/helping out any way we can, the church has so much to offer!

    1. krishkandiah says:

      Thanks lee, click on to the care for the family link, be great to have you connect with one of the consultations.

  5. Michelle says:

    As a social worker and a Christian who attends church, I would like to address that comment of ‘social workers to get a grip on best practice”. UK Social workers are scared! They have so many accountabilities so it makes it impossible to make a decision about a child based on instinct and common sense. We know what best practice is, but the bureaucrats and the system prevent us from doing what we believe best practice is.

    1. Pat Joy says:

      It might help if the Social Workers dealing with children didn’t only learn from books. Perhaps you’d like to check on the Social Workers in the Basildon area. I sure if you asked the ‘clients’ you’d find lots of complaints, and if looked into properly, they would be legitimate complaints.

  6. Tim V-B says:

    We’ve been fostering for about a year now. We didn’t find any particular problems being Christian, but then we were looking to foster young children (0-3 years old) so lots of the big issues don’t feature.

    I do think the issue of homosexuality is, regrettably, one that can be a hurdle. We have said that we will take any sort of children, and would not have a problem working with family members or prospective adoptive parents who might be in same sex relationships. As we see it, our responsibility is to provide great care for the children placed with us, and it is not our responsibility to determine who might be good adoptive parents or to insist that everyone lives like a Christian who isn’t one. 1 Corinthians 5:12 is very helpful here!

    But if we were fostering older children, things get more difficult. When I am asked (in person or via paperwork) about how I would support a child who says they are gay, what should I say? I wouldn’t be happy to say I would encourage them to explore their sexuality, or offer to take them to support groups. But I fear that, for some in Social Services, anything less than full-blown enthusiastic “Hooray! You’re gay and that’s just fine” might be perceived as homophobia.

    It would be helpful for someone like Care for the Family to provide guidance notes for how to answer such questions in a way that shows we Christians will show genuine unconditional love yet will not support the ‘any belief and lifestyle option is fine’ mentality.

  7. I’m looking forward to coming to the London consultation. My husband and I are currently being assessed as adoptive parents.

    I like to correct people who assume we’d only want to do this because of infertility. We’ve never tried to conceive. The world has enough people in it. Let’s look after the children who need families instead.

    On Sunday I was talking to our vicar about the adoption process and how there’s a lack of understanding about the needs of adoptive families in the church. His response? ‘You want to adopt? You can have my kids – I don’t like them.’

    I think we have a lot of awareness-raising to do!

  8. Ged Robinson says:

    Hi Krish. As a Child Protection Social Worker may I express my gratitude in your work in spreading awareness of Fostering and Adoption amongst the church. Looking forward to Manchester. Ged.

    1. krishkandiah says:

      mate thanks for the encouragement – glad you can join us in manchester your expertise will be vital
      see you there

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