National consultation on Fostering, Adoption & the Church
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-30-2012
I am delighted to tell you about a nationwide initiative that I am working on with Care for the Family and Evangelical Alliance. There is a pressing need in the UK for more foster and adoptive parents. There is a crisis in recruitment and retainment of foster and adoptive placements. The church is uniquely placed to offer its help to meet both of these needs. As a large social network with involvement with large numbers of families the church is fertile soil for recruitment. Once carers have been through the…
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Hunger Games Review
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-23-2012
Following a recent trend in teen fiction the Hunger Games is a dark and dystopian view of the future. Based on the first of a trilogy of novels the film tells the story of Katniss Everdeen's quest for survival in a state sponsored televised, gladiatorial fight to the death between 24 teenagers. The film draws on a number of other films but somehow manages to be greater than the sum of its parts. A Battle Royale (2000) A japanese film about a class of 9th grade children who are kidnapped…
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Do we ask too much or not enough of young people?
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-21-2012
Dave Niblock is a youth pastor from Bradford's Abundant life church. We invited him and young people from his church to address the Evangelical Alliance Council and they did a fantastic job of inspiring and challenging us all. As I listened to Dave the idea that most challenged me related to a survey of parent's expectations of teenagers - one of them was "Make your own bed." Dave pointed to the fact that the disciples were likely to have been teenagers and God called them to turn the world upside…
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Stop cutting parents out…
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-19-2012
    In this 6 minute video Alan Charter who runs the Children Matter network argues from Deuteronomy why it is so important for the family to take seriously its responsibility to be the primary place for the nurturing of Christian faith. Now there are of course exceptions to the rule - my situation was that my family were not Christians and my sunday school volunteers and local schools workers were a vital and irreplaceable part of my spiritual formation. But the normative model for the spiritual development of children…
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Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-17-2012
  So many young people are like Kay Morgan Gurr's brother who said " I can believe in God, I can't believe in the Church." How we behave today as churches will significantly impact not just the children concerned but a whole generation that follows. Kay's brother had a toxic experience of church and it lives with 40 years later. If we de-church our young people now - we are seeing less of them come back to church later in life even when they have children of their own. The…
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The Adoption Race
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-16-2012
When the boys in my comprehensive school met me they labelled me “Paki”. They never asked me where I was from and never discovered that I am half Sri Lankan Tamil, a quarter Irish and a quarter Assamese Indian. They were not color blind – they saw my colour and judged me on that and that alone. My sense of humour, my academic gifts, my personality, my character didn’t even get a look in. I was rejected because I didn't fit their acceptable ethnic criteria. When my wife and I…
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How to get your kids through church
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-14-2012
I am a big fan of Rob Parsons - he is a gifted communicator with a genuine passion for people. Rob kicked off our recent Evangelical Alliance Council event "It takes a whole church to raise a child" with a talk based on his book "How to get your kids through church without them hating God." Rob has the knack of both challenging and encouraging you at the same time. This talk speaks to parents, church leaders and youth workers and encourages us all to take the opportunities before us…
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Should Sunday Schools and Youthworkers be scrapped?
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-14-2012
Regular readers of this blog will know that for a while now we have been exploring how to turn the child exodus from our church gatherings around. The term "it takes a whole church to raise a child" has been coined in a bid to help every member of the church play their part in the spiritual formation of young people. We have spoken about the key role parents have in this. At our recent Evangelical Alliance council meeting to stir up the debate we put on a debate and…
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Why we need a new model of youth ministry
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-12-2012
You may not have had time to read Kenda Creasey Dean's excellent book "Almost Christian." The video below gives a fantastic insight into her thinking. Now that we live in a world where there are once again a myriad of competing narratives - we need to find a way to do youth ministry in a way that doesn't assume our young people will be enculturated into the kingdom. In what some would call a "PostChristendom" context - where the Christian faith may be the foundation of our culture but it…
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Books worth reading on Fostering and Adoption
Posted By :Date :Krish Kandiah | 03-11-2012
1. Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How traumatised children impact foster and adoptive homes by Jayne E Schooler et al (Very good book written by Christians that helps explain attachment theory with stories and science useful for adopters and foster carers) 2. Bubble-wrapped children, by Helen Oakwater (says its about adoption and social media, but actually very good introduction to the effects of trauma on children removed from their birth families. Useful for adopters and foster carers) 3. Hurting Too Much - Shocking Stories from the frontline of child protection by…
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